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If You're Young, Rich and Beautiful, Don't Read This...

by Glenn Shepard
June 2, 2015
Category:  Management & Motivation

   



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Dear Glenn,

I love it the Ask Glenn column but haven't seen it in a while. Are you dropping it?

- Marco in San Francisco


Dear Marco,

    Far from it! After using Microsoft FrontPage as the HTML editor for all of our online content for 15 years, we changed to Adobe Dreamweaver after our webhosting company dropped support for FrontPage.
    Two different web "masters" who charge $100 an hour couldn't debug coding problems with the Ask Glenn column during the changeover. After 36 failed attempts, it was temporarily omitted until we found someone who could fix the problem.
    Thanks for your question.

- Glenn in Nashville, TN

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But if you've lived long enough to notice a wrinkle or two, experience the stress of supporting a family, or have ever wondered what happened to the optimist you were at 21, then answer one simple question:
 
What happened to you?
 
I know it sounds rude, but success is not for sissies. So why is your life so different from how you thought it would be?
 
If you're like most people, the current version of you would be a disappointment to the 21-year-old version of you.
 
That's not necessarily a bad thing, since people's expectations in their youth are usually unrealistic. Because life is inevitably full of disappointments, reality rarely lives up to the fantasy.
 
(At 16, I wanted to play lead guitar for AC/DC, despite the fact that I had no talent and no ambition.)
 
But now that your expectations are more realistic, are you still disappointed with where you are?
 
If you're content with your job, relationships, health, and overall self-esteem, stop reading here and delete this email.
 
But if you're not, you're far from alone.
 
I meet thousands of people each year, and an alarming number live their lives in a spirit of frustration and at least some sense of failure.

Some are underpaid.

Some are over-educated and underemployed.

Some have completely abandoned their dreams, given up on getting ahead, and settled for getting by.
 
They try to please others, but rarely please themselves. The peace, contentment, and happiness they expected at 21 have turned into living in defeat and compromise. 

So how does one go about changing this?

It begins with increasing your self-esteem, and the only one way to do that is to do something to impress yourself.

Real self-esteem cannot be given; it must be earned.

It feels good to receive attention from a member of the opposite se*, praise from an authority figure, or compliments from a colleague or friend. But that feeling is temporary because it only lasts as long as that person is there to give it.

We end up feeling hungry for more when they're not around. This can create the unhealthy and destructive habit of relying on others for validation, which makes us weak, needy, and leaves us with no self-esteem whatsoever.

Our character, compassion, conscience, courage, and accomplishments are ways we build true self-esteem. You must work to earn it. But when you do that, no one can ever take it from you.

To Your Success,




P.S. Want to put this principle to the test? Name three things you did in the past year that you are so proud of, that if someone else did them first, you'd say "That's someone I really admire and want to be more like". If you can name three, your self-esteem will be rock solid. If you can't, make a list of three things you'd like to do to impress yourself and watch how quickly your self-esteem grows as you get closer to accomplishing them.

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